How to Love

Roxie girl

A morsel drops on the floor, and no one runs to scarf it up.

Arriving home, there’s no furry friend waiting on the other side of the door.

Hearing a knock, I look to see if she wants to come inside, but it’s only the acorns thumping on the back porch door.

There are a million reminders.

This has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do –put a sick but very happy dog to sleep. I suppose it’ll get easier with time. I’m clinging to the Dr. Suess quote: “Don’t cry that it’s over. Smile that it happened.”

Roxie was a family member, and she impacted us in ways that we’re still growing to appreciate.

A dog’s unconditional love is a rare treasure on earth. I don’t think I fully appreciated it until I lost it.

Roxie inspired several of my blogposts over the years. And so today, she is inspiring one more – a post about unconditional love.

My husband jokes about her unconditional love in one of his life lessons from the garden about the Three Types of Love. “You put your wife and your dog in the car trunk and drive around for an hour. When you open the trunk, which one jumps out and gives you a big fat kiss?”

Unconditional love is the way dogs and Jesus love. Humans, not so much.

Our love often comes with conditions. We love more when the object of our love does things we like – a call or visit, an unexpected gift, support when we need it, etc. If we are hurt by someone, our instinct is to strike back or to hold a grudge.

Not so with a dog. They don’t judge or withhold affection. They want nothing more than to please us. They don’t care if we’re fat or thin, beautiful or homely, popular or not. What they do care about is their devotion to us.

And eating.

OK, gotta be honest – Roxie loved to eat almost as much as she loved us.

But eating aside, she greeted everyone who came to our house with pure love. No one was a stranger to her.

Well, except other dogs.

She wanted no part of other dogs. She thought she was a person – so much so that if we lingered at the kitchen table after eating, she demanded a seat at the table to be part of the discussion.

My daughter said she had no concept of personal space. Wherever we were, she was there in the midst of us.

That reminds me of Someone else.

If Roxie embodied unconditional love and an ever-present-presence, then Jesus does even more so.

With Roxie, there were no “IF/THEN” love qualifications – “IF you do this, THEN I’ll love you.” We didn’t need to be perfect or worthy of her love. She just loved us.

And that is how Jesus loves us. Wholly, unequivocally, passionately, unconditionally.

We can’t earn His love. And nothing we do can diminish His love for us. There are no “If you do this, then I’ll love you.” He’s more like, “I love you. Period.” But because of His great love for us, we are inspired to follow His example. To love others without condition. To serve with enthusiasm. To represent Jesus and the abundant life He provides us to others.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!” 1 John 3:1

Lavish love!

Lavish means “using or giving in great amounts.” He loves us lavishly, beyond measure.

Let us love with the love that we have received!

 

 

Some of my favorite Roxie posts include:

 

Can there be a purpose for fear?

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Fear is one of the enemy’s favorite tools. It affects everyone. And it can affect any area of our lives. Are we a good enough as a mom, wife, friend? How about as an employee or employer? Are we up to the task? What about our dream goals? Do we even have dreams or are we too afraid to think about them? Are there worries, even legimate causes for concern, that totally consume our minds? Fear has us focus on whatever will take our eyes off God – our weaknesses, other’s strengths.

After Adam and Eve sinned, they hid in fear. God’s question to them was “Who told you….?” He hadn’t told them to be fearful or ashamed. They were listening to the voice of their enemy.

All that God asks of us is to be obedient. To seek, to love, to serve Him and His people. When our eyes are squarely on Him, our fears fade in His light.

Years ago, I had a strange experience. I was to speak before a crowd of fellow employees at the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center. Every cell in my body trembled in fear. I had asked for prayer from trusted friends, telling them my teaching session would begin Wednesday at 8:00 am. It was Wednesday at 7:55, and as I drifted to the podium, I was so filled with fear I wondered how I’d be able to utter a single word.

Then something weird occurred. Really weird. It all happened in a moment. I felt a tingling on my scalp, like when someone pretends to crack an egg on your head. The tingle moved down from my head past my shoulders, past my arms and torso, down my legs, and out my feet – much like a thermometer with a pinhole in the bulb and the red liquid leaking out the bottom. The tingle was fear, and the feeling was so tangible that as it left my body, I looked down because I thought I’d see a puddle of fear on the floor. All I saw were large black and white tiles. As my eyes swept back up, they glimpsed the wall clock – which read exactly 8:00 sharp. In that instant, I simultaneously remembered 3 things –

  • my praying friends
  • my specific mention of 8:00am to them
  • and the Scripture verse that says, “Perfect love casts out fear.”

God is perfect love, and He supernaturally removed my fear.

I’d like to say that ever since that time, I have never experienced fear. But that would be a lie. What I do know is this – He CAN supernaturally remove my fear – IF HE WANTS TO. So if He doesn’t, it means that the fear is there for a reason – most likely, so that I keep tethered to Him, focused on Him, in communion with Him, dependent upon Him rather than myself.

All the fear and self-doubt that’s so prevalent and so destructive is just a tool in Satan’s arsenal, seeking to hinder the work of God. If only we can just remember that while we do have weaknesses, it’s in our weakness that He is strong. When we think we have it all together, we are at our weakest point. But when imperfect people do amazing things, God gets all the glory.

Let’s face today, and be amazing!

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear… 1 John 4:18